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Quiz Title:

"Is Your Relationship Comfortable but Disconnected? Take This 5-Minute Quiz to Find Out"

Quiz Instructions:

Answer the following questions honestly to assess the current state of emotional connection in your relationship. Choose the option that best reflects your experience. At the end of the quiz, you’ll receive personalized insights to help you better understand where you and your partner stand.

Quiz Questions:

Section 1: Communication Patterns

  1. How often do you and your partner talk about your feelings (beyond day-to-day logistics)?

    • A) Daily

    • B) Weekly

    • C) Rarely

    • D) Almost never

  2. When you share your feelings with your partner, how often do they respond in a way that makes you feel understood?

    • A) Always

    • B) Most of the time

    • C) Sometimes

    • D) Rarely or never

  3. How comfortable are you with bringing up difficult or uncomfortable topics in your relationship?

    • A) Very comfortable

    • B) Comfortable, but I sometimes hesitate

    • C) I avoid it unless absolutely necessary

    • D) I don’t feel comfortable at all

  4. Do you feel like your partner listens to you without interrupting or trying to fix things?

    • A) Yes, all the time

    • B) Sometimes, but they often try to solve problems for me

    • C) Rarely, they usually jump in with solutions

    • D) Almost never

  5. How often do you and your partner argue or have conflicts?

    • A) Frequently, but we resolve them

    • B) Occasionally, but we avoid bigger issues

    • C) Rarely, we mostly avoid conflict

    • D) Almost never, we don’t argue

Section 2: Emotional Connection

  1. When was the last time you felt deeply emotionally connected with your partner?

    • A) Recently

    • B) Within the past few months

    • C) It’s been over a year

    • D) I can’t remember

  2. How do you feel emotionally when you’re with your partner?

    • A) Loved and connected

    • B) Comfortable, but not deeply connected

    • C) A bit distant, but peaceful

    • D) Disconnected and alone

  3. How often do you and your partner share vulnerable or personal feelings with each other?

    • A) Often, we’re open about how we feel

    • B) Sometimes, but not frequently

    • C) Rarely, we tend to keep things to ourselves

    • D) Never, we don’t talk about deeper feelings

  4. Do you ever feel lonely in your relationship, even when things are going smoothly?

    • A) Never, I feel supported

    • B) Occasionally, but I don’t think much of it

    • C) Often, but I don’t bring it up

    • D) All the time, I feel emotionally alone

  5. Do you and your partner spend intentional quality time together (e.g., dates, deep conversations)?

  • A) Frequently, we make time for each other

  • B) Sometimes, but not as often as I’d like

  • C) Rarely, life gets in the way

  • D) Almost never

Section 3: Vulnerability & Emotional Safety

  1. How safe do you feel being emotionally vulnerable with your partner?

  • A) Completely safe

  • B) Mostly safe, but I hold back sometimes

  • C) I often hold back, not feeling entirely safe

  • D) I rarely feel safe enough to be vulnerable

  1. When you share something deeply personal, how does your partner typically respond?

  • A) With empathy and understanding

  • B) With some understanding, but they sometimes minimize it

  • C) With indifference or a quick response to fix the issue

  • D) They don’t seem to understand or react in a supportive way

  1. How often do you hold back your thoughts or feelings to keep the peace in your relationship?

  • A) Rarely, I’m comfortable sharing how I feel

  • B) Sometimes, if I think it’s not worth the discussion

  • C) Often, I don’t want to stir up conflict

  • D) Almost always, I avoid sharing difficult feelings

  1. When was the last time you and your partner had a meaningful conversation about something important to you?

  • A) Recently, within the last few days

  • B) A few weeks ago

  • C) Several months ago

  • D) I can’t remember

  1. If your partner brings up an emotional concern, how do you tend to respond?

  • A) I listen carefully and offer support

  • B) I try to listen but sometimes feel defensive

  • C) I struggle to stay present and may avoid engaging deeply

  • D) I feel uncomfortable and often change the subject

Section 4: Physical & Emotional Intimacy

  1. How would you describe your current level of physical affection (e.g., hugs, kisses, holding hands)?

  • A) High, we’re very affectionate

  • B) Moderate, we’re affectionate sometimes

  • C) Low, we rarely show affection

  • D) Almost none, we are physically distant

  1. Do you feel that emotional intimacy enhances your physical connection (e.g., your desire for touch, closeness)?

  • A) Yes, emotional closeness leads to physical intimacy

  • B) Sometimes, but the emotional connection isn’t always strong

  • C) Emotional disconnection has reduced physical closeness

  • D) We have little emotional or physical intimacy

  1. When was the last time you felt excited or passionate about your partner?

  • A) Recently, I still feel passion in the relationship

  • B) Occasionally, but it’s faded over time

  • C) It’s been a long time since I felt that way

  • D) I don’t remember ever feeling that way

Section 5: Shared Goals & Vision

  1. Do you and your partner talk about the future and the goals you have as a couple?

  • A) Often, we’re aligned on our future vision

  • B) Sometimes, but it’s not a regular conversation

  • C) Rarely, we don’t talk much about the future

  • D) Almost never, we live day-to-day without discussing long-term goals

  1. Do you feel like you and your partner are growing together emotionally, or drifting apart?

  • A) Growing together, we’re becoming more connected

  • B) Mostly steady, though we could connect more

  • C) We’re drifting apart emotionally

  • D) We’ve been distant for a long time

Mostly A’s: Deeply Connected

You and your partner have a strong emotional foundation. You communicate openly, feel emotionally safe, and are aligned on your goals. While every relationship has room for growth, you’re doing well. Keep nurturing that connection through heart-centered communication and regular emotional check-ins.

Next Step: Consider joining my workshop or exploring my resources to maintain and deepen this connection.

Mostly B’s: Moderately Connected

You and your partner have a good foundation, but there’s room for improvement. There may be some emotional distance or unspoken feelings that could be addressed to strengthen your connection. With a little effort, you can move from good to great.

Next Step: Consider joining my 12-week coaching program, where you can deepen your communication and emotional intimacy.

Mostly C’s: Disconnected but Peaceful

You’re likely feeling emotionally disconnected, even though there may not be obvious conflict. You and your partner could benefit from learning how to express your emotions and reconnect on a deeper level. Now is the time to work on this before the distance grows larger.

Next Step: Book a free discovery call to explore how we can reignite the connection and emotional intimacy in your relationship.

Mostly D’s: Emotionally Distant

It seems like you and your partner are significantly emotionally disconnected. While the relationship may appear stable on the surface, there’s a real need for emotional reconnection and open communication. Without addressing these underlying issues, it’s possible that the distance will continue to grow.

Next Step: Let’s work together to rebuild the emotional foundation of your relationship. Join my 12-week coaching program or book a free discovery call to start your journey back to intimacy.

Section 1: Communication Patterns

Mostly A’s:

Your communication patterns are strong and effective. You and your partner are likely having regular, meaningful conversations and listening to each other in ways that foster emotional safety. While no relationship is perfect, you’re likely in a healthy space, where emotions are expressed openly, and conflicts are addressed constructively.

  • Tip: Keep nurturing this dynamic by regularly checking in with each other emotionally and maintaining deep conversations that go beyond daily logistics.

Mostly B’s:

Your communication is decent but could be stronger. You may talk about your feelings, but not as often or deeply as needed for true emotional intimacy. Conversations might sometimes skim the surface, without delving into underlying emotions or concerns.

  • Tip: Make a conscious effort to have more intentional, heart-centered conversations. Schedule weekly emotional check-ins where both of you can express how you’re feeling without interruptions.

Mostly C’s:

There may be some communication gaps in your relationship. You and your partner likely avoid tough conversations, or when you do talk, it might feel like you’re not truly understanding or hearing each other. This could create emotional distance over time.

  • Tip: Start practicing small communication exercises like reflective listening or sharing vulnerable feelings using "I feel" statements. Building trust through regular, low-stakes conversations can help bridge this gap.

Mostly D’s:

Your communication seems to be severely lacking. You and your partner may rarely discuss feelings, avoid conflict at all costs, and may not feel heard or understood. This can lead to growing emotional disconnection and frustration.

  • Tip: Consider working with a relationship coach or therapist to rebuild healthy communication patterns. Begin with daily emotional check-ins to re-establish a habit of sharing and listening.

Section 2: Emotional Connection

Mostly A’s:

You’re likely emotionally connected and engaged with your partner. You both make an effort to stay close, share your feelings, and make each other feel seen and valued. This indicates a strong emotional foundation that supports long-term relationship satisfaction.

  • Tip: Keep reinforcing this connection through regular quality time, physical closeness, and emotional support.

Mostly B’s:

Your emotional connection is moderate but could deepen. You may feel close at times but not consistently. There might be moments when you feel emotionally distant or disconnected, even though things seem stable on the surface.

  • Tip: Focus on rebuilding emotional intimacy by sharing more vulnerable moments and being present with each other. Quality time without distractions can go a long way in enhancing emotional closeness.

Mostly C’s:

You and your partner are likely feeling emotionally distant. You may still care deeply for each other, but the connection has faded over time, possibly due to a lack of communication or busy lifestyles. Emotional intimacy might not feel as accessible as it once did.

  • Tip: Make time for conversations that go beyond surface-level topics. Plan activities that help you emotionally connect, such as reflecting on positive memories together or engaging in physical affection.

Mostly D’s:

Your emotional connection is severely strained. You may feel more like roommates than romantic partners, with little emotional intimacy or shared emotional experiences. This is likely creating feelings of loneliness, even within the relationship.

  • Tip: Consider seeking help to address emotional disconnection. Rebuilding intimacy takes time, but small steps like expressing gratitude or scheduling regular dates can help revive the bond.

Section 3: Vulnerability & Emotional Safety

Mostly A’s:

You and your partner have established a relationship where vulnerability is welcomed. You both feel safe sharing your emotions and can rely on each other for emotional support, even in difficult times. This sense of safety is vital for maintaining long-term emotional intimacy.

  • Tip: Continue fostering vulnerability by regularly sharing deeper feelings and discussing your emotional needs.

Mostly B’s:

You feel mostly safe being vulnerable with your partner, but there might be certain topics or emotions you hesitate to share. While you can open up at times, there’s room for building more emotional safety.

  • Tip: Begin exploring the areas where vulnerability feels difficult. Sharing these with your partner can help you both work on building a space where all emotions are welcomed and accepted.

Mostly C’s:

You might struggle with vulnerability in the relationship. Whether due to past experiences or a fear of conflict, you may not feel entirely safe expressing your emotions. This lack of openness could be creating an emotional gap between you and your partner.

  • Tip: Start small by sharing less threatening emotions and gradually build towards discussing more vulnerable topics. Being honest about your fears of vulnerability can also help your partner understand how to support you.

Mostly D’s:

There seems to be a lack of emotional safety in the relationship. You likely feel uncomfortable or unsafe sharing your true feelings, which can lead to emotional suppression and disconnection. This can be a serious barrier to intimacy.

  • Tip: Professional support might be necessary to address deeper emotional issues and create a safer emotional space. Begin rebuilding trust by establishing small emotional rituals like daily check-ins.

Section 4: Physical & Emotional Intimacy

Mostly A’s:

Your physical and emotional intimacy are both likely strong and active. You and your partner share affection, closeness, and regularly engage in activities that foster connection. This balance between emotional and physical intimacy helps maintain passion and stability.

  • Tip: Keep nurturing this balance by making space for both emotional and physical expressions of love. This helps sustain intimacy in the long run.

Mostly B’s:

Your physical and emotional intimacy is moderate, but may fluctuate. While you still engage in affection or physical closeness, there might be times when it feels less frequent or meaningful. Similarly, emotional connection may feel present but not deep.

  • Tip: Plan regular moments of physical closeness—whether it’s a hug, a kiss, or holding hands. Being intentional about these small actions can help reignite the emotional spark.

Mostly C’s:

You’re likely experiencing a drop in both physical and emotional intimacy. The affection may have faded, and physical closeness might feel forced or infrequent. This can reflect an emotional distance that has grown over time.

  • Tip: Engage in conversations about what intimacy means for both of you. Explore small ways to increase physical affection while working on emotional closeness.

Mostly D’s:

You may feel physically and emotionally disconnected from your partner. There’s likely little physical intimacy, and emotional closeness has eroded, leaving the relationship feeling stagnant or distant.

  • Tip: This is a critical point where intentional action is needed to rebuild intimacy. Begin by addressing emotional disconnection first, and gradually work on reintroducing physical affection.

Section 5: Shared Goals & Vision

Mostly A’s:

You and your partner are likely aligned in your long-term goals and vision for the future. You both communicate openly about where you want the relationship to go and feel united in working toward a shared future.

  • Tip: Continue these discussions regularly to ensure you stay aligned as life circumstances change.

Mostly B’s:

You might be somewhat aligned, but there are areas where your goals or visions diverge. You may talk about the future sometimes, but not frequently enough to feel fully connected on what you both want long-term.

  • Tip: Set time aside to explore your individual and shared visions. This can help strengthen your bond and create excitement for the future.

Mostly C’s:

You and your partner might rarely discuss your long-term goals or visions for the relationship. This can create uncertainty about your future together and may lead to feeling like you’re drifting apart.

  • Tip: Start discussing where you both see yourselves in the next few years. These conversations can reignite emotional connection and bring a sense of unity.

Mostly D’s:

It seems like you and your partner are not aligned on your goals or visions, or you rarely talk about the future. This can lead to feelings of confusion and disconnection, as you may not know where the relationship is headed.

  • Tip: Begin by addressing emotional disconnection and then move toward more in-depth conversations about your future goals.

Program Structure:

Duration: 12 weeks
Format: Weekly 90-minute coaching sessions (virtual or in-person)
Goal: To help couples rediscover emotional intimacy by teaching them heart-centered communication, vulnerability, and how to engage in healthy, constructive conflict.
Additional Tools: Weekly exercises, journaling prompts, and reflection worksheets for couples to complete between sessions. Optional group circle sessions (virtual or in-person) can be included.

Week-by-Week Breakdown:

Week 1: Introduction & Emotional Check-In

  • Objective: Set the foundation by understanding the couple’s current emotional state, their patterns of communication, and where they feel disconnected.

  • Key Activity:

    • Emotional Check-In: Each partner shares how they feel about the relationship and where they believe disconnection is happening.

    • Your Story: Share your own story of emotional disconnection in past relationships to create relatability.

  • Homework: Each partner reflects on when they first noticed the emotional disconnection and how they’ve been avoiding tough conversations.

Week 2: Reframing Conflict as Connection

  • Objective: Challenge the belief that conflict is harmful and introduce the idea that healthy conflict can strengthen relationships.

  • Key Activity:

    • Teach the difference between destructive conflict and constructive conflict. Explain how avoiding conflict can lead to disconnection.

    • Exercise: Introduce a tool for managing conflict in a healthy way (e.g., "soft start-ups" to tough conversations).

  • Homework: Practice having a short, low-stakes conversation about a minor conflict using the "soft start-up" method.

Week 3: Emotional Suppression & Avoidance

  • Objective: Help couples recognize the ways they’ve been suppressing emotions and avoiding difficult conversations to "keep the peace."

  • Key Activity:

    • Story Sharing: Share how your past relationships avoided conflict and the emotional cost of that avoidance.

    • Exercise: Partners identify three emotions they’ve been suppressing and share them with each other in a safe, non-judgmental setting.

  • Homework: Partners write in a journal about how suppressing emotions has impacted their connection.

Week 4: The Art of Heart-Centered Communication

  • Objective: Introduce Heart iQ principles to teach couples how to communicate from the heart, rather than just managing logistics or avoiding emotions.

  • Key Activity:

    • Teach heart-centered communication: How to speak from a place of vulnerability and authenticity.

    • Exercise: Each partner practices sharing one deep emotion (joy, sadness, fear) using heart-centered language while the other listens without interrupting or solving.

  • Homework: Daily check-in where they practice heart-centered communication for 5-10 minutes.

Week 5: Deep Listening & Emotional Attunement

  • Objective: Teach couples how to listen deeply and attune to their partner’s emotions without judgment or defensiveness.

  • Key Activity:

    • Attunement Exercise: Partners practice non-verbal attunement by sitting together and sensing each other’s emotions without speaking. Then, they share what they sensed.

    • Explain how emotional attunement can rebuild intimacy without needing to "fix" problems immediately.

  • Homework: Each partner writes a reflection on how it felt to attune emotionally, even without words.

Week 6: Rebuilding Emotional Trust

  • Objective: Focus on rebuilding emotional trust by creating safety in vulnerability.

  • Key Activity:

    • Teach how emotional safety and trust are built through vulnerability and consistent, open communication.

    • Exercise: Each partner shares one emotional vulnerability they’ve been afraid to express.

  • Homework: Continue practicing vulnerability with daily check-ins using heart-centered language.

Week 7: Healing Unspoken Resentments

  • Objective: Help couples identify and release unspoken resentments that have accumulated due to emotional disconnection or people-pleasing behaviors.

  • Key Activity:

    • Discuss how unspoken resentments can silently erode connection.

    • Exercise: Partners list any small grievances they’ve held back from expressing. They share these gently and non-judgmentally, focusing on how they felt rather than blaming their partner.

  • Homework: Write about how it felt to share these grievances and practice "clearing the air" with small daily reflections.

Week 8: Embracing Constructive Conflict

  • Objective: Now that emotional safety has been built, couples learn how to embrace conflict as a way to grow closer.

  • Key Activity:

    • Teach strategies for handling conflicts when they arise, focusing on empathy, curiosity, and softened start-ups.

    • Exercise: Role-play a conflict scenario using these tools, practicing de-escalation and emotional regulation.

  • Homework: Practice handling small disagreements with empathy and the tools they’ve learned.

Week 9: Creating Emotional Rituals

  • Objective: Introduce the concept of creating emotional rituals to keep emotional intimacy alive in everyday life.

  • Key Activity:

    • Teach couples how to create rituals that foster connection, such as regular emotional check-ins, weekly "heart-to-heart" time, or daily gratitude sharing.

    • Exercise: Each couple co-creates a ritual that they commit to practicing for the rest of the program.

  • Homework: Implement their chosen ritual daily or weekly.

Week 10: Shared Meaning and Vision

  • Objective: Guide the couple to create a shared vision for their relationship, ensuring they grow together emotionally and not just co-exist.

  • Key Activity:

    • Vision Exercise: Each partner writes down their vision for the next 5 years of their relationship. What do they want to feel, experience, and create together? Then, they share these visions and identify common goals.

  • Homework: Partners continue refining their shared vision by discussing how they can align their goals and desires.

Week 11: Reconnecting Passion and Playfulness

  • Objective: Reignite passion and playfulness in the relationship, beyond emotional safety.

  • Key Activity:

    • Fun Exercise: Reconnect through light-hearted activities—couples share playful memories and recreate moments of fun and spontaneity. Encourage them to find ways to bring back joy and passion.

    • Discuss how emotional intimacy leads to physical and romantic connection.

  • Homework: Plan one playful or romantic activity together and reflect on how it felt.

Week 12: Moving Forward with Emotional Connection

  • Objective: Wrap up the program by reviewing the couple’s progress and solidifying their emotional connection strategies.

  • Key Activity:

    • Reflect on where they started and where they are now. Celebrate their growth and emotional reconnection.

    • Create a roadmap for continuing their emotional journey, with weekly check-ins and ongoing rituals to ensure they stay connected.

  • Final Reflection: Each partner writes a letter to themselves about their journey of reconnection and how they plan to maintain the emotional intimacy they’ve built.

Worksheet 1: Emotional Check-In (Week 1)

Title: Where Are We Now?

Instructions:
This worksheet helps you both assess where you currently stand in your relationship, emotionally and communicatively. Please take some quiet time individually to fill this out, then share your reflections with your partner.

Part 1: Emotional Connection

  1. On a scale of 1-10, how emotionally connected do you feel to your partner right now? (1 = very disconnected, 10 = deeply connected)

  2. What are the specific moments where you feel most connected with your partner?

  3. Are there moments where you feel emotionally distant? Describe them.

  4. What emotions do you often avoid sharing with your partner? Why?

Part 2: Communication Patterns

  1. How often do you and your partner have meaningful conversations (beyond logistics like work, kids, chores, etc.)?

  2. Do you feel heard and understood when you share your feelings? Why or why not?

  3. How do you both tend to handle conflict or difficult topics? (e.g., avoid, brush it off, argue, compromise?)

  4. What’s one thing you wish you could talk about more openly in your relationship?

Worksheet 2: Reframing Conflict as Connection (Week 2)

Title: Seeing Conflict as Growth

Instructions:
This worksheet is designed to help you reflect on your current beliefs around conflict and how you might reframe them to see conflict as an opportunity for deeper connection.

Part 1: Conflict Beliefs

  1. How did your family of origin handle conflict growing up? (E.g., avoidance, aggression, open discussions, etc.)

  2. How have those early experiences shaped the way you approach conflict in your relationship?

  3. What fears or concerns do you have about engaging in conflict with your partner?

Part 2: Reframing Conflict

  1. What’s one small disagreement you’ve had recently that you avoided or brushed aside? How could you approach it differently to foster connection?

  2. Imagine a healthy conflict with your partner. What would it look like? How would it feel? Write out a description of how you’d handle that situation with openness and curiosity.

  3. What’s one thing you want to practice during conflicts moving forward? (e.g., empathy, staying calm, speaking your truth without blaming.)

Worksheet 3: Emotional Suppression & Sharing Vulnerabilities (Week 3)

Title: Letting Go of Emotional Suppression

Instructions:
This worksheet will help you recognize emotions you’ve been holding back and guide you in sharing those emotions with your partner in a healthy, open way.

Part 1: Recognizing Emotional Suppression

  1. What emotions do you tend to suppress in your relationship? Why? (E.g., anger, sadness, disappointment)

  2. What are you afraid might happen if you share those feelings with your partner?

  3. How has suppressing those emotions affected your connection with your partner? (E.g., feeling alone, distant, numb.)

Part 2: Sharing Vulnerabilities

  1. List three emotions you’ve been holding back in your relationship. For each, describe the situation that brings that emotion up.

  2. Write down how you can share these feelings with your partner, starting with "I feel…," rather than blaming or accusing language.

    • E.g., "I feel sad when we don’t spend much time together after work."

  3. Practice saying these out loud to yourself before sharing with your partner. What does it feel like to express your vulnerability?

Worksheet 4: Heart-Centered Communication (Week 4)

Title: Communicating from the Heart

Instructions:
This worksheet will guide you in practicing Heart-Centered Communication, allowing you to speak from a place of authenticity and vulnerability, and to listen deeply to your partner.

Part 1: Speaking from the Heart

  1. Think of a recent emotion you’ve been feeling (positive or negative) that you haven’t fully expressed. Write it down.

  2. Rewrite the way you would share that emotion using heart-centered language.

    • Heart-Centered Example: "I feel really loved when you ask about my day."

    • Or: "I feel sad when we don’t make time for each other in the evenings."

  3. Practice saying this to your partner during your daily check-ins this week.

Part 2: Listening with the Heart

  1. How do you typically respond when your partner shares their emotions? (e.g., Do you give advice, try to fix things, get defensive, or withdraw?)

  2. What do you think your partner needs most when they share their feelings with you? (e.g., validation, empathy, encouragement.)

  3. This week, during your heart-centered check-in, practice listening without interrupting. When your partner finishes, reflect back what you heard.

    • Example: "I hear that you’ve been feeling distant lately, and that makes you sad. Did I get that right?"

Worksheet 5: Rebuilding Emotional Trust (Week 6)

Title: Building Safety in Vulnerability

Instructions:
This worksheet focuses on building emotional trust through vulnerability. You’ll each explore how safe you feel being vulnerable and how to create a more supportive environment for each other.

Part 1: Vulnerability & Safety

  1. On a scale of 1-10, how safe do you feel being vulnerable with your partner? Why?

  2. What are some situations where you’ve wanted to open up emotionally but didn’t feel safe to do so?

  3. What could your partner do to help you feel safer when being vulnerable? (e.g., offer non-judgmental listening, physical comfort, words of reassurance.)

Part 2: Creating Emotional Safety

  1. Write down three ways you can create emotional safety for your partner when they share something vulnerable.

    • Example: "I’ll hold space without trying to solve the problem."

    • Or: "I’ll thank them for trusting me with their feelings."

  2. Practice one of these with your partner the next time they open up. What was the outcome?

Worksheet 6: Healing Unspoken Resentments (Week 7)

Title: Letting Go of Unspoken Resentments

Instructions:
Unspoken resentments can silently eat away at a relationship. This worksheet helps you acknowledge and release those resentments in a healthy way.

Part 1: Identifying Unspoken Resentments

  1. What small grievances or disappointments have you been holding onto that you haven’t shared with your partner? (e.g., "They don’t ask me about my day," or "They don’t help out with chores.")

  2. Why haven’t you shared these grievances? (e.g., fear of conflict, didn’t want to hurt their feelings.)

  3. How have these unspoken resentments affected your emotional connection?

Part 2: Sharing Grievances Gently

  1. List 2-3 small resentments you’d like to gently share with your partner.

  2. Practice expressing these using "I feel" language to avoid blaming.

    • Example: "I feel unappreciated when I cook dinner and we don’t eat together."

  3. After sharing, reflect on how it felt to finally express these feelings. Did it create relief or understanding?

Worksheet 7: Shared Meaning and Vision (Week 10)

Title: Creating Our Shared Vision

Instructions:
This worksheet will guide you in co-creating a shared vision for your relationship’s future, helping you align your desires and deepen your emotional bond.

Part 1: Individual Visioning

  1. Take some time to reflect on what you want your relationship to look like in the next 5 years. What feelings do you want to experience regularly? What kind of emotional connection do you want to have?

  2. What are three specific goals or desires you have for your relationship’s future?

    • E.g., "I want us to have deeper conversations at least once a week," or "I want to travel together more often."

Part 2: Sharing & Aligning Visions

  1. Share your vision with your partner. What similarities do you notice in your visions? Where do they differ?

  2. Discuss how you can align your goals and co-create a plan to grow together. What emotional rituals or habits can you create to keep your connection alive?

Worksheet 8: Reconnecting Passion & Playfulness (Week 11)

Title: Bringing Back Playfulness & Passion

Instructions:
This worksheet is designed to help you reconnect with playfulness and passion in your relationship, which can often fade during periods of emotional disconnection.

Part 1: Rediscovering Playfulness

  1. What are some playful or fun activities you used to enjoy together early in your relationship?

  2. How can you recreate one of those moments this week? Plan something fun and light-hearted to do together.

  3. Afterward, reflect on how it felt to share a playful moment. Did it spark connection or joy?

Part 2: Reigniting Passion

  1. When was the last time you felt a deep romantic connection with your partner? What was happening?

  2. What’s one romantic gesture or act of affection you can give your partner this week to reignite passion?

  3. After doing this, reflect on how it felt. Did it bring you closer emotionally or physically?

FREE STUFF:

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Title:

"5 Days to Emotional Reconnection: A Challenge for Couples Who Want to Feel Closer Again"

Overview:

This free challenge helps couples explore their emotional connection through simple, daily exercises that focus on heart-centered communication, vulnerability, and playful connection. Each day, they'll receive a task that’s quick and easy to complete, so they can reignite their connection without feeling overwhelmed.

Format:

  • Deliver this via email or PDF download.

  • Include short exercises and reflection questions to guide the process.

  • Use it to show them how small changes can lead to significant emotional shifts.

Day-by-Day Breakdown:

  • Day 1: Reflect on What Connects You

    • Exercise: Each partner lists three things they appreciate about their partner (small or big) and shares these over dinner or during a quiet moment.

    • Goal: Reignite gratitude and appreciation for one another.

  • Day 2: Create a Space for Vulnerability

    • Exercise: Share one emotion you’ve been keeping to yourself lately, using "I feel" statements (e.g., "I feel lonely when we don’t spend time together in the evenings").

    • Goal: Practice emotional openness and vulnerability without fear of judgment.

  • Day 3: The Playfulness Reboot

    • Exercise: Engage in a playful activity together, like dancing, playing a game, or doing something fun that makes you laugh together.

    • Goal: Bring back light-heartedness and playfulness to the relationship.

  • Day 4: A Heartfelt Check-In

    • Exercise: Have a 10-minute conversation where each partner answers the question: "How are you feeling about us?"

    • Goal: Practice heart-centered communication by opening up about your feelings.

  • Day 5: Vision for Us

    • Exercise: Each partner writes down what they want to experience emotionally in their relationship over the next 6 months. Then, share these with each other and discuss how to work towards this.

    • Goal: Build shared meaning and set an intention for emotional growth together.

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